Everyone wants to be happy don’t they? Just to be able to shut the fuck up and be content. Smiling even. Like you’ve been awake all night and it wasn’t insomnia. ; )
So, why the hell do we seem to want to sabotage it all the time?
Below is what you should STOP doing. It will make a lot of difference.
Blaming
People make mistakes. Deal with it. Colleagues don’t meet your expectations, the water tank is empty and no one has put a new one in, vendors have sent you the wrong product. Do you blame them for all your problems. “If they did this my life would be so much easier”. But maybe take a look at yourself…perhaps you weren’t clear enough, perhaps you expect too much? Take responsibility for your own life. It’s up to you to make it work. Not others.
Impressing
No one likes you for the clothes you wear. Or the car you drive. Or whether you own the latest mobile. These are just things (you know this don’t you?). They may like what you have, but it’s not you. These are not real friendships. So stop trying to impress everyone. Be yourself. Then you’ll build real relationships. The ones that mean something to you. The ones that make you happy.
Avoiding change
Embrace change. It’s the only way. You may feel afraid or insecure of the unknown so you avoid change. Stay the same. This is not making you happy. You are just avoiding fear and insecurity. That is not happiness. Go for something different. Strive for it. Triumph over it. Let go and reach for the stars. There is no better feeling than accomplishing something you never thought you could do.
Not Listening
Often in a conversation people aren’t really listening to what others are saying. They are thinking of what they want to say next. Sometimes they’ll say something not even connected to what the conversation is about! Try listening to someone next time. Really listening. Show your interest. Ask questions to make sure you understand what they are saying. Trust me. They’ll love you for it. And you can swell with happiness knowing that everyone loves you. You may even learn something new!
Whining
Just shut up. Whining about you problems just makes you feel worse. It’s not changing anything is it? Put this energy into fixing the problem, making the situation better. NOW. Don’t talk about what’s wrong. Talks about what’s good. words have power. Positive words will lift your spirits. Even if you’re talking to yourself.
Criticizing
Ok, so you know you could do a better job with your eyes closed. You could probably do a better job with your eyes closed and your hands tied behind you back. But have some f****** respect. Someone has spent time putting this project together. They have tried their best. (I mean they’re not gonna do it badly on purpose are they). So be constructive. Criticizing only make you and everyone else around you pissed off. So what the point? Share that fountain of knowledge you possess. And don’t….
Preach
You think you know better. Your view is the best view and you’re not afraid to tell everyone about it. Truth: You’re probably wrong. Other people have different, but equally valid ideas. Do this often enough and people will switch off whenever you speak. Who wants another lecture? Or be told why you know the answer. This can only result is a reduction of your happiness.
Dwelling on past failings
The past has gone. Forever. It won’t change. It doesn’t help. Learn from it and move on. The past is just training for the future. IT DOES NOT DEFINE YOU. So stop fretting about what happened. Become stronger for it instead.
Fearing
Quit what iffing. You know. What if this happens? What if that doesn’t work? What if it’s not the right time? Meanwhile days, weeks, moths, even years slip by. Along with your hopes, dreams and desires. DON’T LET YOU FEAR HOLD YOU BACK. Whatever you have been planning, whatever you dreams are. Act on them today. Take that first step. Don’t let fear rule you and stop you doing what you really want to do. Fulfill your dreams. Even if it’s a small step. Take action. Today. NOW. Because once today has gone. That’s it. It’s not coming back. By tomorrow it’s gone forever.
Basically, what I’m saying is, cut the crap, take action and live your life on your own terms.
